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23-Jan-2012 I like this

Monday 23 January 2012 Leave a comment Go to comments

I know this is written about your late-20s, and I am a bit older than that but it’s good advice for any age:

This is the thing: When you hit 28 or 30, everything begins to divide. You can see very clearly two kinds of people. On one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find … themselves and their dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. Then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. … they mean to develop intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than when they graduated.

Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal.

Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? … Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”

Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love, and with people who believe … life is a grand adventure. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.

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  1. Sunday 11 March 2012 at 19:54

    That quote is totally spot on! I also know many people who fall into both camps. I’m not sure where I fit personally. I’ve certainly been on a massive learning journey in my 20s so far, but I also find myself resisting the full transition to adulthood (at least in my head anyway – I still feel as if I’m no more than 18 mentally. Do you ever feel your age though?!).

    “Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep travelling honestly along life’s path.”

    Very true words. Thank you for sharing.

  2. Sunday 11 March 2012 at 23:35

    >I still feel as if I’m no more than 18 mentally.
    >Do you ever feel your age though?!

    I heard an interview with a 100 year old and they asked what it felt like to be 100 and she said she still felt like she was 18.

    I want to say that when I am 100 – I still feel like it now in my 40’s.

    Thanks for commenting!

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